How can we apply mindfulness when we’re living in a frantic world? Let’s consider mindful communication. Listening is a difficult task. The most important person in the world is the one you’re speaking to. We rarely listen properly. We’re absentminded when a person talks. We barely pay attention to what the other is saying. We end up reflecting on what we’re going to reply with instead of simply listening.
Love has many meanings and can be extremely personal. Love, from a mindfulness perspective, is pure attention. It’s the type of attention that is complete. There’s no personal interest involved in love.
Children want reassurance and to be listened to. It’s challenging because we want them to avoid making the same mistakes we did. We’re tempted to tell them what to do. This action could have a negative effect on them, despite good intentions. Children
Children often want to be reassured and feel the need to be listened to. It’s not easy because often we want them to avoid making the mistakes we did and are tempted to tell them what to do. Children want you to listen to them with your complete attention.
A hard day’s work amid life’s turmoil can complicate how we communicate. One simple technique to improve? Resist the need to interrupt. Mindfulness in communication relies on being mindful of simple elements, such as our breath, the sensation of our feet on the ground and mentally telling yourself to listen can help.
This is easier said than done. We want our children at our best and we need people to listen mindfully. In turn, we foster a culture of respect and sensations of being valued by others. When other people listen to us, we feel appreciated and loved. The most precious gift we can give to anyone is our total attention by listening to them.
About the Author
Pierre Gagnon practised concentration and insight meditation intensively from 2010 to 2012, then went on to study meditation at Wat Suan Mokkh with the venerable Ajahn Po from 2013 to 2015. As well as his own practice, he has coordinated meditation retreats in the south of Thailand which were attended by more than 1,000 people.
Having a great passion in the field of neuroscience, he likes to integrate these concepts into meditation practice. He believes that much of our life is lived resisting and defending against internal and external experiences that people perceive as threats. Through the development of concentration and meditation, we can insightfully see that all experiences are harmless and there is no need to defend of contract around them. Pierre has experience coordinating concentration and insight meditation retreats, teaching the relationship that exists between Buddhism and neuroscience.